My Dear Adia,
I think about your future quite often. I think of what you'll be like as a teenager. I think of the boys that will be trying to win your heart. I think of the man you will choose to marry.
Over the years, you will read the fairy tales of all the happily-ever-afters. You will hear people talk about finding 'the one'. You may start to believe in what you hear and see in movies or read in books. But I want to assure you, there is no perfect 'one' person out there for you. There isn't a singular soul-mate out there waiting to stumble upon you.
There will be many different men that you could be happy and in love with for the rest of your life... the choice is yours as to who you choose to be 'the one'. The decision is completely in your hands. Choose very carefully though.
The term soul-mate has recently attained a new connotation for me. There will be friends and family that you have a deep connection with. These people will know who you truly are without needing you to talk about yourself. They will know your desires and dreams. They will be your encouragement when you lose faith in yourself. They will recognize your sadness even though you don't share it, and they will comfort you in a way only they can. They will love you unconditionally, no matter your mistakes. My mom, my dad, and you are collectively, each for your own individual reasons, my soul-mate; the love of my life. And when I picture my life without one of you or all of you, I have a feeling of no control and complete hopelessness. I am happiest when I have all three of you around me. You are home to me.
I hope you find that home in others when you get older. It may be with friends, it may be with the man you choose to marry, or it may be with me. You will know who they are though. When you feel like you don't need walls around your heart or thoughts, you are with your soul-mate.
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